against all real evidence things have feelings, too. they don’t love in the human way, still:

my thrift shop sweater, faded red and out at the elbows, has a story. I try to imagine the places it has been and who wore it before it was mine.

the torn-up Adidas are retired now but they still trash-talk to me from the back of my closet. I stare at them and remember every swoosh, all the layups we missed, and the wrong turns we took together.

the tattered photographs of abuelo y abuela I keep in my guitar case whisper to each other. I think they disapprove of how I style my hair these days.

and my used poetry books think softly to themselves in between readings, and the whittled-down pencil on the kitchen table dreams under its yellow blanket of what we may write together the next time.

these will always be more than just things to me. we’re connected for life. I have become all these things. and they have become a part of my inheritance: these sometimes forgotten things I thought I was done with forever take my back in their arms.

the other afternoon at the memory center where I go to sing this beautiful 81-year-old lady named Carolina told me she felt unwanted and forgotten. I didn’t know what to say.

I asked if I could play her a song, and out of my head fell PJ Harvey, Who Will Love Me Now. couldn’t keep it together at the end, Carolina’s eyes were too much.

16 responses to “worn-out things”

  1. Belongings carry so many memories with them. They do become a part of us.
    Carolina sounds lovely. It’s sad to think she feels this way but I hope interacting with you & eventually others will show she’s not forgotten.
    What a beautiful song, too. You captured the emotion in your voice and playing.

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    1. a few don’t get many visitors or phone calls and yet we have each other to look after and remember

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      1. It brings a new meaning to the volunteers who go to seniors’ homes to spend time with them.

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  2. Beautiful writing, Cookie.From one second hand rose to another

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    1. I’m such a big fan of your writing so this is a giant wow for me. thank you.

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  3. Very poignant all round this one cookie. Words and music. Lovely heartfelt rendition of the song too. I listened to the song on the Jetpack app very late last night. I nursed older people with dementia and music changed their whole being. Faces changed to lighting up and their voices sang back at you. They belong to why the music was written. You are creating such positivity in this one role, alongside the positivity in the other projects you choose to pursue cookie. Brilliant. All the best.

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    1. o, thank you. I removed the track from my post. I didn’t think it was a good performance, I don’t know, maybe I’m too close to it. my mom worries I get too attached to the people there. I understand her yet I don’t know how not to be.

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      1. I thought it was amazing cookie. We are our own worst critics aren’t we. Lucky I got to hear it then. Revisiting your post this morning on the internet ‘visit’ connection to comment, I noticed it wasn’t there. I got too close to some of my patients too. But it shows an inner spirit from someone can’t be taken lightly really. They gave me so much to think about and reflect on with their own stories. Cheers cookie.

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      2. overall, I’m pretty terrible to myself, that’s pretty well chronicled. but relating to performance and writing, you’re right, people do remember above all else how you made them feel. thank you for listening and liking it.

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      3. My brother’s Father in Law attended my brother’s 60th birthday party. I took the song sheets I used for singing with older patients in day hospital. His dementia was evaporated that night. He loved the social party camaraderie singing and joined in. He said for a long time afterwards it was the best night ever. I felt great sharing the songs with others. So good for myself and others too. That’s what you yourself are achieving cookie. Best wishes to you.

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  4. beautiful, Cookie….I find the same feelings surface in relation to these that share in our journey and if possible could tell stories of our lives…

    A heartfelt… still heartwarming gesture from you to Caroline. 🤍💫

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    1. one day all this stuff and I may need to find a bigger place to live. guess I will let them decide when the time comes. 🤍

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      1. a nice thought there, Cookie …one day 🤍💫

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